In today’s episode, our guest is Will Rezin, a high-performance coach. He works with influencers, high-performers, coaches, and entrepreneurs to master themselves from the inside out. Also, he’s an expert in helping people transform their lives and careers through deep, powerful inner work.
[7:38] Why should we listen to you?
I’m going to sit down, and I’m going to talk to you. I’m going to be present with you.
[8:36] When we take the time to be here, to be present, something happens. Something happens between you and me, even at this moment. I’d share myself with you in a way that might be different than other people.
[9:44] How you got through trauma.
There’s a nuance in connection in relationships. And those of us that have lived through hardship, through intensity, difficulty, and trauma.
[11:07] I think the connection point between you and I was group homes, foster care facilities. At 12 years old, I, between 12 and 15, lived in and out of different group homes. At 16, I moved to live with my father, who was beginning to transition to living as a woman. And I lived with him through that experience. I’ve worked with ordinary folks. I’ve made over 50 in a month, 50,000 and a month, and more. He’s been arrested, lived barefoot, traveled; he’s lived on $30 a month.
[15:00] How trauma created the guy you are now?
I was put in these situations where I had to adapt or die. I could assess a room; I could tell you who was a threat and safe in moments. Resilience is innate, and it’s a part of us. I had the proper support. That’s the key to survival, and it’s part of who we are. All of us live through something that would be categorized as traumatic. It’s a spectrum from more minor to larger. But we’re all resilient; it’s innate. It’s a product of my resilience.
[17:42] Most pivotal support and Somatic experiencing
Somatic Experiencing is a psychobiological approach to treating trauma. They make the process of working with the nervous system to resolve the body’s responses.
[18:14] Some people were there in my life during difficulty, were my tether, so to speak some sense of normalcy, support, and care. And when we have that, we can go on here; we have these three foundational needs as human beings.
[19:20] How did you come out of the muck of going through all that?
I went through years of drug abuse, alcohol, psychedelics, and an assortment of other different things that were running away from me. I was avoiding feeling what’s under the surface. And I had to find the help necessary to be with all of that. And it was bit by bit by bits, one step at a time. If we think about the mountain, we may not ever start. It’s a constellation of many different things, a willingness to face myself, a desire to feel what was inside.
[23:16] Where people usually at and where usually leave.
Training companies, our practitioners, their coaches, their doctors, or therapists or facilitators, they’re working in the transformation industry and or the helping industry and come in hungry to learn about how to support the people they’re working with better. And when they leave, they leave a better understanding of the basics of what it means to be human. And then how to help people in the process of awakening to their humaneness.
[16:31 – 16:35] “We are all resilient. It’s innate, it’s a part of us.”
[29:42 – 29:47] “We’re here to live, to be here, to be present in this inside of every moment.”